I really do want your advice!! All comments would be appreciated. Let me set up the background for my question:
I was very excited that I had the opportunity last night to attend a "Generation iY" conference by Dr. Tim Elmore! It was entertaining, definitely an eye opener! and a challenge to take a fresh look at how I parent. Generation iY is anyone born from 1994-2002. (Anyone born 2003 are called the "Homeland Generation" (named for the fact that the Homeland security office was established that year and the threat of terrorism is part of the day to day world that they are being raised in) but least I forget where I was going, let me get back to generation iY.
The conference emphasised the strength and weakness of this generation. It also reflected on why, this generation is different from the one I grew up with. What things impact this generation.
Did you know that this generation is larger than the BABY BOOMER generation? I did not know that! Also that this generation is wanting to delay adult hood. In fact College Deans are now saying that 26 is the new 18. Why? Because my generation has been so good at "protecting" their children, instead of balancing that parenting approach with "preparing" our children for adult hood. The Generation iY are graduating High School and going off to college with out the skills (on so many levels) to navigate adulthood. This trend will get worse as this Generation iY continues to grow, unless parents like myself to a step back, and a deep breath. Then start to change some habits that they have gotten into in parenting, and start to "parent with a purpose".
Here is the Question: At my oldest daughters school, if they make a bad score on a test, no big deal they can re-take the test as many times as they want until they get the grade they want. (this is new this year by the way). We don't like this! I am not trying to be mean, but in real life you don't get do overs on a project for work etc... all the time! I really don't think this policy is preparing my kid for the real world or college. We are talking about requesting that my child not be allowed to re-take test next year. If she makes a bad grade, she gets a bad score. Hopeful she will learn she needs to study more. If she makes a good grade then good for her. (Next year is the year before she will enter High School) or do you feel we are being unfair to have our child be "opted" out of options available to the rest of the student body??????
What are your thoughts?