Well, God did not like this attitude of my heart and mind! God set out to change my opinion he first reminded me that my home is to be a blessing to others (not just my family). God also reminded me that our house could point to him by providing a safe place for kids to hang out, as well as for parents to step inside and pick their kids up. (God did not need to send me to a mission field he was sending the mission field to my house) God also reminded me loving others is messy! Loving me is messy work, and look where he started from and anyone in my home is my guest. Lastly God reminded me thru his word "Be hospitable to one another without complaint" 1 Peter 4:9
So after confessing all my shortcomings and yes, realizing that God loves me and how messy that has been I have been opening the doors to our home and welcoming all that my children invite in. (Now that does not mean I don't occasionally say "no, not today, but Hannah can come over tomorrow" because I do). This is the guidelines I have organized my life around to be able to be in the position to say "yes" when my kids ask if so & so can come over.
1. Keep your house picked up. Be realistic it does not have to be perfect, but children should not have to step over the pile of clothes to get in the front door.